We are constantly dealing with issues, problems and struggles. Who is to blame and who should sort them out?
"Traffic is outrageous! Council should work on infrastructure!"
"My partner is constantly getting on my nerves by leaving the toothpaste without a lid! He needs to learn how to do things right."
"School is stressful. Someone should make some major changes!"
"My children, although adults, still ask me for money. They have to grow up!"
There are so many circumstances and so many things need to change, for us to be happy. Or at least content. So many people, institutions, situations need to do something, in order for us to be able to relax and take it easy.
Right?
Well... wrong!
If you have people in your life who should do something in order for you to be ok, please do this:
1. Take a few envelopes and a few pieces of paper.
2. Write every single problem on separate pieces of paper. Give a solution and label the envelope. E.g. "Traffic is outrageous!" - Solution: Council should work on infrastructure. Label: Council
Other labels:School, Partner, Daughter, Friend, France and so on.
Create an envelope with "My own problems" label and write down what you feel about yourself and some possible solutions or desires that you would be able to or wish to sort out on your own.
3. Put the issues inside their labeled envelopes.
4. Put all envelopes on one pile and the one with "My own problems" separate. Shred every single envelope and keep "My own problem". Take the written piece out and place it somewhere visible and work on it until all your issues have been crossed out. It could take a while, but it is worth it.
You may wonder why go to the trouble of writing and labelling if in the end we shred them. There are a few valid reasons:
- You will identify who should solve those problems by labelling them correctly. It is not in your power to sort them out. Let them go. Free your mind, your life, of negative thoughts that will use your energy and make you feel miserable.
- You will understand that you cannot solve other people's problems. Those are their problems, not yours.
- It will be hard to let go of things you have been complaining about for such a long time. They became your second nature, the reason you constantly have something to complain about. But you should finally understand that they are not in your ability to be changed or solved.
- And finally, the most important: YOU ARE THE ONLY PERSON YOU CAN CHANGE! We cannot change people. They will change if and when they will find fit to change. For every individual change is a process and it happens only from within.
When we change the way we look at things, the things we look at will change. E.g. if I change from hating my boss into seeing him as someone who is helping me, who gives me a chance to prove myself, I will see him differently. His behaviour will change because mine changed. It will be a domino effect and the world around me will change at the same time with my ability to live my own reality instead of reacting to the existing one. I will change from the old "cause and effect" to "causing an effect".
Please, don't waste time thinking and creating scenarios on how to solve other people's problems. It's a waste of your valuable time. Irreversible time.
Instead, create your own reality, live your own dreams. Believe in yourself and your power to manifest your desires!
Create your own beautiful YOUniverse!
Love and be loved!
"Traffic is outrageous! Council should work on infrastructure!"
"My partner is constantly getting on my nerves by leaving the toothpaste without a lid! He needs to learn how to do things right."
"School is stressful. Someone should make some major changes!"
"My children, although adults, still ask me for money. They have to grow up!"
There are so many circumstances and so many things need to change, for us to be happy. Or at least content. So many people, institutions, situations need to do something, in order for us to be able to relax and take it easy.
Right?
Well... wrong!
If you have people in your life who should do something in order for you to be ok, please do this:
1. Take a few envelopes and a few pieces of paper.
2. Write every single problem on separate pieces of paper. Give a solution and label the envelope. E.g. "Traffic is outrageous!" - Solution: Council should work on infrastructure. Label: Council
Other labels:School, Partner, Daughter, Friend, France and so on.
Create an envelope with "My own problems" label and write down what you feel about yourself and some possible solutions or desires that you would be able to or wish to sort out on your own.
3. Put the issues inside their labeled envelopes.
4. Put all envelopes on one pile and the one with "My own problems" separate. Shred every single envelope and keep "My own problem". Take the written piece out and place it somewhere visible and work on it until all your issues have been crossed out. It could take a while, but it is worth it.
You may wonder why go to the trouble of writing and labelling if in the end we shred them. There are a few valid reasons:
- You will identify who should solve those problems by labelling them correctly. It is not in your power to sort them out. Let them go. Free your mind, your life, of negative thoughts that will use your energy and make you feel miserable.
- You will understand that you cannot solve other people's problems. Those are their problems, not yours.
- It will be hard to let go of things you have been complaining about for such a long time. They became your second nature, the reason you constantly have something to complain about. But you should finally understand that they are not in your ability to be changed or solved.
- And finally, the most important: YOU ARE THE ONLY PERSON YOU CAN CHANGE! We cannot change people. They will change if and when they will find fit to change. For every individual change is a process and it happens only from within.
When we change the way we look at things, the things we look at will change. E.g. if I change from hating my boss into seeing him as someone who is helping me, who gives me a chance to prove myself, I will see him differently. His behaviour will change because mine changed. It will be a domino effect and the world around me will change at the same time with my ability to live my own reality instead of reacting to the existing one. I will change from the old "cause and effect" to "causing an effect".
Please, don't waste time thinking and creating scenarios on how to solve other people's problems. It's a waste of your valuable time. Irreversible time.
Instead, create your own reality, live your own dreams. Believe in yourself and your power to manifest your desires!
Create your own beautiful YOUniverse!
Love and be loved!
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